We all appeared on 1 February 2021 for our court hearing which was postponed for various reason. I am happy about this postponement as it will give me enough time to get the Court Orders to access data as well as prove the information of the person who opened the website along with their IP address.
I am happy all around. I have seen my attorneys a few time in preparation.
This is obviously very stressful but in order to move on with my life in peace, and to prevent this man and co from doing this to me or my family again I need to protect myself, it is best to get this behind me now once and for all.
The Magistrate issued an updated warrant of arrest which covers me till the next court date which is 19 April 2021.
The name of the respondent has been removed for the purposes of his privacy.
A topic which is never seen anywhere because to authorities, it does not exist.
Gang-stalkers break up and destroy families. Sometimes misinformation is spread about the victim, to the family members. Other times family members are used to negatively influence the victim. They create friction and distrust in the victims family life, they take advantage of dysfunctional families and sabotage healthy relationships in their hate campaign against the victim.
ORGANISED STALKING is a slow death by assassination from co-conspirators (4-5 people, sometimes more) and achieved by a continuous stream of "soft-blows" to both the individual's body and mind as well as his/her environment. Defamation, slander, isolation by rejection, demoralisation by bullying, destabilisation by unemployment, and despair by complete poverty and loneliness. They can even go as trying to set you up for illegal things (online), report you and get you into heaps of trouble with the authorities.
This is a very sadistic and evil kind of abuse, which can take a person to the brink of suicide if not stopped or if someone doesn't intervene. This is pure evil. This is real.
Why they pick random people and innocents can still not be proven, but what I do know is that the destruction of these types of syndicates can prove fatal.
The worst part about this is that the victim seems like they have lost their mind and everyone around them feels the same - and that is the whole aim.
If you find yourself in a situation like this, it is best to withdraw from everyone around you and keep a written diary (not online) to take notes and dates of the events. This will prove worthy in court. The only way to get around this is to focus on the person who brought this into your life - for me it was my ex-boyfriend. When it comes to court and pressure from SAPS, we are almost certain he will not go down alone.
Know the signs!
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So we got to court on the 5th and all went into the court once called. As we sat down before the magistrate could speak, the suspect asked if he could please straighten something out regarding postponement. Before he could finish the Magistrate stated that this was her court room and he needs to respect the chain of command within it.
She gave him the choice of allowing the protection order to go through because when we come back with council on the 1st February, she would have a proper court hearing where cross examination takes place and he can be charged under the criminal law.
She also warned him that she is granting me the warrant of arrest.
I hope he does show up, I have always wanted my day in court with him. I feel it is only justified after all he has done to my life and be accountable and answer for it.
I have the warrant of arrest if he does break any of the terms on the protection order in the mean time.
Overall, I am happy with how the court hearing went and look forward to finally putting this matter behind me. There are still other charges, which includes Regional which will be fruitful this year.
After 2 police stations closing down 6 attempts of opening up a domestic violence case, 1 case being thrown out of court without an investigation or even an enquiry, over a period of 3 years with many tears...
I have successfully managed to obtain an interim protection order which was granted today, 3 police cases split over 3 police stations and a Regional Case pending.
I did not give up. The system failed me so many times. My persistence and presence with regards to these cases is what got me to where I am today. You need to be proactive and tenacious. Irritate them if you have to, I did!
I know that some of you have told me in personal messages that you have given up hope. I know how you feel. It is exhausting and heart breaking. If there is any way you can muster up another ounce of courage I implore you to give your case another chance.
I cannot explain enough how grateful I am to have this protection order. I also cannot put in words what this man has silently done to my life, my kids and my reputation. I have suffered under his abuse and "evil" for too long. It was incredibly difficult to obtain this order. It has been incredibly difficult to get SAPS to open a case for over 2 years. To have GBV recognised despite all the media about it is one of the most difficult things I have done to date.
This story is heart wrenching and the destruction this man has left in his wake is undeniably painful for my children, husband and I.
This was not an easy thing for me to do. It is not in my nature to expose people or get this into trouble. I begged this man to stop. The more I asked, the more destruction he brought.
I can honestly say, being 7 years down the line... he deserves everything he gets!
I want to thank all the people who did not believe his lies, his games and didn't listen to him. I have been called crazy, a liar, a whore, a thief all because of this man. I have lost jobs, homes, animals, family, my children due to having to flee Cape Town to get him to stop. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
Update regarding Magistrate Court -
I have submitted my new application. According to the lady who was so helpful yesterday, it is perfect. They asked me to come back a little later today to see if the Magistrate has signed it off. If it does not happen today, I will need to be there first thing Monday morning which is also great.
If this does not go through then they will write to the Regional Court and ask them to speed up their pace regarding the case. This will help too, especially if it is declined again due to not being able to provide solid evidence of the new harassment which has taken place. (which is impossible to do, I am not an investigator or a cybercrime expert). They do believe the other information is solid and will suffice.
My overall experience over the last 3 days although a little frustrating has been pleasant and the staff really have done all they can to help me get things right to have this order passed. I am grateful. Thank you!!
To never giving up!
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I AM DOING THIS BECAUSE I AM STANDING UP FOR MYSELF, BECAUSE IT IS THE RIGHT THING TO DO.
I AM DOING THIS, SO THAT HE NEVER EVER HAS THE OPPORTUNITY TO DO THIS TO SOMEONE ELSE AGAIN.
BECAUSE I KNOW I AM NOT HIS ONLY VICTIM.
I AM ALSO DOING THIS TO SHOW OTHER VICTIMS THAT THEY CAN DO THIS.
So, today I took a very big and brave step and went to the Magistrate's Court and opened up a protection order against one of the suspects.
Although I still have the regional case, it is imperative that I protect myself for the things that may still come my way, and yes of course I do not want a repeat of the things he has already done.
The thought of having him in court and being in the same room as him is quite upsetting but there is a time in life when we have to get through the difficult occasions in order to live the life we are intended and that is minus an abuser.
I also learnt something today. There is a vast difference between a protection order and an harassment order. Harassment order lasts only up to 5 years. A protection order is a lifetime of safety.
I was at court for a few hours because I completed the wrong form, so I had to rewrite the events over again which is why it took so long.
The staff at the Magistrate Court are friendly, trained and very professional. Overall it was not as daunting as I thought it would be.
If you are being abused by someone, I urge you to stand up for yourself and do what is necessary to be happy and whole again.
I wish you love and light.
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Economic Abuse & How He Strategically Used It By Exploiting Me Online Without My Knowledge Or Consent.
Identifying economic abuse is important. If I had known these things when it was taking place in my life, I would have stopped it then.
Economic abuse can be your abuser causing issues at your work place, calling your employers and lying about you in order to get you fired.
It also includes online exposure which is actioned without your consent or knowledge which can lead to you not being able to find employment due to your name being tarnished online.
This is what my abuser did to me without my consent or knowledge.
The website he created was online for a year before I realised it was there causing me to lose employment opportunities.
Using your credit cards and not paying it, breaking your property or stealing/withholding your property are more examples of economic abuse.
Be aware of these things, especially when applying for a divorce or have intentions of leaving your abusive partner.
Economic abuse can cause resulting damage such as tarnishing your good credit record, affecting your retirement as well as your monthly income in order to take care of your family and children.
If you are suffering due to the affects of economic abuse and have any form of evidence to prove it, I urge you to go to SAPS and open a case. It falls under the domestic violence act in South Africa.
Truth never damages a cause that is just. (Mahatma Gandhi)
A special thank you to the people who did believe in the madness I was trying to explain and although I did not make sense most of the time because it was so intense , thank you.
It makes sense to the law.
Mostly, profound gratitude and appreciation to my husband who lived through this with me, who never failed me, who never thought I was crazy or lying like most did. Thank you. I love you
A large investigation is still on going but we going forward.