Living With & Escaping A Sociopath
What I Lived Through - Who He Was - What He Did - What I Lost - How I Escaped - How I Finally Found Justice.
People show you who they are. Believe them the first time.
People show you who they are. Believe them the first time.
We received very happy news today. The Magistrate agreed to grant both Court Orders so I can prove who opened the website and also to access my data. Finally things are working in my favour.
We all appeared on 1 February 2021 for our court hearing which was postponed for various reason. I am happy about this postponement as it will give me enough time to get the Court Orders to access data as well as prove the information of the person who opened the website along with their IP address.
I am happy all around. I have seen my attorneys a few time in preparation.
This is obviously very stressful but in order to move on with my life in peace, and to prevent this man and co from doing this to me or my family again I need to protect myself, it is best to get this behind me now once and for all.
The Magistrate issued an updated warrant of arrest which covers me till the next court date which is 19 April 2021.
The name of the respondent has been removed for the purposes of his privacy.
A topic which is never seen anywhere because to authorities, it does not exist.
Gang-stalkers break up and destroy families. Sometimes misinformation is spread about the victim, to the family members. Other times family members are used to negatively influence the victim. They create friction and distrust in the victims family life, they take advantage of dysfunctional families and sabotage healthy relationships in their hate campaign against the victim.
ORGANISED STALKING is a slow death by assassination from co-conspirators (4-5 people, sometimes more) and achieved by a continuous stream of "soft-blows" to both the individual's body and mind as well as his/her environment. Defamation, slander, isolation by rejection, demoralisation by bullying, destabilisation by unemployment, and despair by complete poverty and loneliness. They can even go as trying to set you up for illegal things (online), report you and get you into heaps of trouble with the authorities.
This is a very sadistic and evil kind of abuse, which can take a person to the brink of suicide if not stopped or if someone doesn't intervene. This is pure evil. This is real.
Why they pick random people and innocents can still not be proven, but what I do know is that the destruction of these types of syndicates can prove fatal.
The worst part about this is that the victim seems like they have lost their mind and everyone around them feels the same - and that is the whole aim.
If you find yourself in a situation like this, it is best to withdraw from everyone around you and keep a written diary (not online) to take notes and dates of the events. This will prove worthy in court. The only way to get around this is to focus on the person who brought this into your life - for me it was my ex-boyfriend. When it comes to court and pressure from SAPS, we are almost certain he will not go down alone.
Know the signs!
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So we got to court on the 5th and all went into the court once called. As we sat down before the magistrate could speak, the suspect asked if he could please straighten something out regarding postponement. Before he could finish the Magistrate stated that this was her court room and he needs to respect the chain of command within it.
She gave him the choice of allowing the protection order to go through because when we come back with council on the 1st February, she would have a proper court hearing where cross examination takes place and he can be charged under the criminal law.
She also warned him that she is granting me the warrant of arrest.
I hope he does show up, I have always wanted my day in court with him. I feel it is only justified after all he has done to my life and be accountable and answer for it.
I have the warrant of arrest if he does break any of the terms on the protection order in the mean time.
Overall, I am happy with how the court hearing went and look forward to finally putting this matter behind me. There are still other charges, which includes Regional which will be fruitful this year.
As I explained earlier, I cannot divulge too much information at this time as we are waiting for the suspects to be given their court dates which will be in the Regional Court.
In 2015 my ex (Darth) opened up a weebly site, just like this and uploaded hidden camera footage from the main bedroom which was hidden in a drawer & a air freshener of me having sexual intercourse.
He uploaded nude images, sexual images which were private and mine. He exposed other people in this cess pool of evil which they about to learn as well. He wrote articles, pages and pages of lies, humiliating me, lying about me, explaining and sharing my deepest hurts in life, making jokes out of it, he included my children, my ID number; he linked my husband who at that time was my friend, linking our Facebook profiles and some other stuff. He uploaded voice notes, emails. The data was massive, private and disgraceful to have been exposed publicly in my real name and tagging Facebook profiles to it.
Due to the sexual content I had over 3000 men adding me on Facebook asking me for sex. Of course I did not know where to find this site and asked him several times what he had done. His answer was: "You are lying and you are crazy and I am going to get you the treatment you need."
The website he created and later admitted to due to me finding it and literally proving it after a year of lies, sending him screen shots, he finally admitted to it.
www.zenda-lee-hill.weebly.com - THE UNVARNISHED TRUTH - YOU ARE BEING LIED TO.
He tagged my ex marriages surname to the post as well which was Fourie. He tagged my mobile number and address. I was exposed and he literally put me in harm’s way.
His partner in crime along with others being aware of it was my current husband's ex-wife. It was through her that I found the website because she sent Ryan (my husband) a WhatsApp stating his whore’s real name is Zenda-Lee Hill Fourie, which is what I searched in Google. She also threatened that for as long as he is with me, she will expose me and keep all my data public which included all WhatsApp conversations which only ended this year in April after finding a static IP address allocated to our router which created a disaster and forced device control. In the background of all her threats, she was having an affair with another man. How ironic.
I will share more once these evil creatures have their first court appearance.
I need to tell you that what these people did destroyed my life and my future. For years I could not find work, and when I did the bosses would tell me my wife does not want you to work for me. To be violated and exploited sexually is very difficult to live with. I am still struggling today with it. Below are a few images to give you a glance at the hidden camera and a screen shot of the first page of the website.
Being exposed by revenge porn is a criminal offence. I will not allow him to get away with this. He took away anything good, and the repercussions of his savage damage I still live with today. Most importantly, my children are separated from their mom due to me fleeing Cape Town out of fear.
STOP THE SILENCE.
After 2 police stations closing down 6 attempts of opening up a domestic violence case, 1 case being thrown out of court without an investigation or even an enquiry, over a period of 3 years with many tears...
I have successfully managed to obtain an interim protection order which was granted today, 3 police cases split over 3 police stations and a Regional Case pending.
I did not give up. The system failed me so many times. My persistence and presence with regards to these cases is what got me to where I am today. You need to be proactive and tenacious. Irritate them if you have to, I did!
I know that some of you have told me in personal messages that you have given up hope. I know how you feel. It is exhausting and heart breaking. If there is any way you can muster up another ounce of courage I implore you to give your case another chance.
I cannot explain enough how grateful I am to have this protection order. I also cannot put in words what this man has silently done to my life, my kids and my reputation. I have suffered under his abuse and "evil" for too long. It was incredibly difficult to obtain this order. It has been incredibly difficult to get SAPS to open a case for over 2 years. To have GBV recognised despite all the media about it is one of the most difficult things I have done to date.
This story is heart wrenching and the destruction this man has left in his wake is undeniably painful for my children, husband and I.
This was not an easy thing for me to do. It is not in my nature to expose people or get this into trouble. I begged this man to stop. The more I asked, the more destruction he brought.
I can honestly say, being 7 years down the line... he deserves everything he gets!
I want to thank all the people who did not believe his lies, his games and didn't listen to him. I have been called crazy, a liar, a whore, a thief all because of this man. I have lost jobs, homes, animals, family, my children due to having to flee Cape Town to get him to stop. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!