No matter how "kind" a toxic person may behave it is usually for a short period. They will always return to their baseline character and abusive behaviour.
A psychological abuser may go through a short period of being kind and staying off the radar but it would be for a reason of being caught out in a lie or facing some trouble with law enforcement, etc.
They will be super kind and nice to others around them either for purposes of minimising the abuse so that the victims around them can forget about it and focus on the adoration they are currently receiving or because they have stirred up some serious trouble and are in the firing line. Whichever the case, once this is over they will revert to who they are and the abuse will continue.
It is who they are, they do not know another way. Please accept this.
You are not the narc whisperer!
They will not miraculously change their ways because you have whispered a magic narc potion in their ears or sprinkled narc dust over their heads, waiting in anticipation for a miracle to happen.
This is serious and I need to to grasp the fact that your narcissist, abuser or sociopath is not going to change for you, or anyone after you.
The faster you acknowledge that you are literally dealing with a demon who is a soulless creature, the better off you and your children will be.
LEAVE! There are organisations who are able to evacuate you in South Africa.
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WOMEN ABUSE MEN TOO
This topic never gets discussed. It is important to recognise that men suffer under the hands of domestic violence too. It is even harder for them to come forward, they are men - society demands they "act accordingly", so it would be very rare for a man to open a case of assault at SAPS.
(Reuters Health) - Men who experience domestic violence and abuse often don’t seek help until the problem becomes a crisis, researchers say.
Men tend to worry they would not be believed, or that they would be perceived as less masculine if they reported abuse, their analysis found.
Along with fearing they wouldn’t be believed or would be seen as weak, men often stayed in abusive relationships because they felt committed to or concerned about their partners. In other cases, they were too depressed, despondent or traumatized to gather the strength to leave.
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