The narcissist has a false self they loathe, and which they avoid acknowledging at all costs. If you're kind and sensitive and self aware, they'll feel intense envy and hate for you because these are exactly the qualities they miss but are not willing to cultivate through hard work like you did.
They will therefore treat you with total contempt as if those qualities are weaknesses in an attempt to separate you from your true self, and recruit others to hate you so you feel it more intensely.
Remember that you're not what they claim, you're not part of their darkness. You are sparkling and beautiful and worthy more than they can ever be, and that's why they target you in the first place. Narcissists always target people stronger and smarter than they, so they get some pride in taking you down. This is the essence of their twisted core - they derive ego boost by destroying others.
Solution? Stop trying to reform them - they're irredeemable. Just rescue the remaining years of your life, and your sanity. Remember the sooner you leave the better because your heart, juts like your eyes, can adjust to the dark and you start calling hell, home.
Author: Benjamin Zulu
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