Unfortunately I cannot yet publish the names of the suspects because they have not yet received their court date yet. There are a few people who worked alongside the suspects but the main two, one being my ex-boyfriend who I dated for about 3 years (3 years way too long).
I can only imagine he is behaving himself with his current partner. She is a good woman; I do not personally know her but my daughter has told me that she under no circumstances knows who he is and what he has done to me and probably many other unsuspecting victims. I feel for her, I really do. I under no circumstances want her to be compromised and dragged into this cess pool he created for himself so I only pray she has the courage to leave him after she learns the truth.
Moving along... the other suspect is a female, I know, I was horrified too. She is my husband’s ex-wife. Now before I tell you the story I logged on to tell you this morning I would like to share a bit of background as to who he really is.
I met him, let’s call him *Darth Vader*, I called him this pet name because in all honesty just hearing his name or speaking his name would make me very angry, and after that I would fall to pieces and the next few days would be hell. So, I met Darth Vader in 2012 on a dating site called "Person" or "People", I really cannot remember. We chatted for a while and things progressed slowly after I separated from my ex-husband into the new year of 2013. We remained friends for about 8 months before things picked up. I lived alone peacefully in my own place. The year of 2013 is when the really strange things began to happen, and I want to tell you I can truly kick myself when I think back now and realise that I should have known then. I really should have. In the years, he confessed to being a sociopath, he confessed it over the weekend of 2014, Valentine’s Day. I had to Google what a sociopath was but due to my love for him I didn't expect him to treat me that way. He is also a sex addict, constantly online chatting up women, young teenage girls, very charming and convincing man. Highly intelligent, smart and very cunning. I only learnt about his addiction to sex, cheating and females just before I walked out of the house at 2am, 15 February 2016 and yes, this has been reported to SAPS.
So, back to my story... One weekend in 2013 also early in the year, Darth threw a house party, many of his friends came over, and we also had a movie night, outside, via a projector which played on his white garden wall. That night I was chatting briefly to one of my friends, he is an owner of a law firm and I shared a pic of me and two of his friends in a pool, having fun, we were clothed as the pool was not a planned thing. The one friend was a hairdresser. That night I was drinking and got very tired, I fell asleep on the couch which was put into his garden in order to watch the outside show. In this time he got into my blackberry reading messages but there was absolutely nothing untoward on my phone, AT ALL! I woke up to him tilting the couch over while I was sleeping; I landed on the grass with a massive fright. He was shouting at the top of his voice, "you are a whore, get out of my house", you are a "whore".
My 14 year old daughter was in the bedroom with his daughter who had met for the first time. He opened their bedroom door, shouting "get up, your mother is a whore, get out of my house". I was terrified and deeply hurt. I was confused. Having my daughter there, it took my handbag and left to my aunt’s house at 1am. The next day, he sent me a BBM (message) to tell me he is sorry and he didn’t know what happened, and that it would never happen again. I accepted his apology. This was Sunday late afternoon. The next evening I went to see my children after work; I sent the pictures of the evening to his hairdresser friend. To my horror, she told me to never contact her again because Darth had told her I sent the pictures to a male friend planning a threesome with him, her and myself which was a blatant lie. I was shocked.
I approached Darth about it over the phone and he claimed she was lying and was jealous of our relationship and stirring the pot. Above this, the damage his words had caused shouting "your mother is a whore" to my daughter allowed her the permission to start calling me names which was not like her. So this was red flag number 1 which I should have acknowledged the very moment it happened.
Keep up to date with my blog because there are hundreds of more red flags I chose to miss due to love. Please ladies, when you recognise red flags - GET OUT!
Zen Rebekkah Williams
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