A narcissistic father is cold and heartless, a disaster to his children more so. His punishments are brutal and inhuman. If the children of such a father narrated their experiences you would be traumatised just hearing them.
In one case I handled the father didn't like how his son sucked his thumb and so he slit it open with a key. Another daughter used to suck her arm so he burned it with a hot metal. The older sister used to be beaten up until she fainted. Their mother was beaten up constantly and threatened with death if she dared leave.
The worst part is that children of narcissistic fathers, if they go on to marry before they process the trauma, end up marrying other narcissists. The abuse conditioned them to accommodate further abuse because it's normal to them and they don't know any better. They've also been trained to be excessively compliant, to expect nothing from others, never to assert themselves and to earn love and attention by obedience and service. These are exactly the qualities narcissists are looking for.
These men are cunning and clever. They know any mature person will see through them so they always go for the young and naïve then hurry to make them pregnant, marry them or rope them in any other way. They then proceed to brainwash the victim into believing that they cannot survive without them, or that some calamity awaits them if they dare escape. 90% of women married to narcissists were captured this way.
Where the woman is the narcissist, majority of the cases the man stayed because they already had a child. These men are usually good hearted and responsible, but dull-witted and unaware about the dangerous dynamics in dating.
If you came from a father like this your priority must not be relationships but recovery. Dedicate at least 2 years as soon as you leave home for college and process everything you went through with the help of a therapist.
If you know you had an abusive parent but instead of healing you start dating you're courting disaster.
Author: B. Zulu
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